Women’s Dating Resolutions for the New Year

Did you make resolutions for the New Year? Most of us make resolutions to change things in our lives; lose weight, stop smoking, get more exercise, be kinder, or be a better parent. Sometimes they are so big that we soon give them up. The first month of the year is over, how are you doing on your resolutions? How motivated are you in what you want to accomplish? Have you ever thought about Dating Resolutions?
Recently, “It’s Just Lunch” had an article on their blog www.itsjustlunchblog.com about Dating Resolutions for women and men. This is a “premier Dating Service for busy professionals” that arranges meetings usually over lunch between single professionals. Evan Marc Katz, author of “Why You’re Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You I You Promised Not To Get Mad” came up with 10 Dating Resolutions for Women. ( I have added to it)
1. Make an effort – get out there, nothing happens in a vacuum.
2. Don’t take things personally-not every man is going to be your soul mate. As the saying goes you have to “kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince”, while dating you can define the qualities you are looking for.
3. Do nothing-once you have met him, it’s his job to follow up. I know it’s hard but guys still like to feel like they are in charge. If a guys really cares he will let you know!
4.Stay open- don’t limit yourself by too specific “wants” like profession, location, amount of hair, weight, height (height is one of my “biggies” I am not comfortable with guys shorter than me). You never know he maybe a diamond in the rough and you know we love diamonds!
5.Be positive-no one wants to be around a negative person. This is a deal killer for me, I can tell on the first phone call whether I want to date a guy by how he talks about himself, family or life. Don’t bring up all the things that went wrong in your last relationship or life.
6.Don’t try to change men-they not made of play dough or clay although some may act like it. You can’t change the way they grew up, some habits may be able to be changed, weight loss, physical activity, learn sports or dancing. If you try or expect them to change you will both be unhappy. Would you want some guy to try and change you?
7.Change your focus- look for qualities you would look for in a friend not just as a lover. No matter how good a lover he is if he doesn’t have good vertical qualities and doesn’t treat you the way deserve he‘s not right for you.
8.Be humble- when you are mentally critiquing your date he might be doing the same to you.
9.Forgive the ignorance-guys just want you to like them but often don’t know how to go about it. One of the things I look for is whether in the first conversation is if they ask questions of about me. Sometimes they just talk on and on in answer to my questions but don’t seem like they want to know me (a future post I will give you a list of questions). When a couple of guys meet they always seem to find a common ground and have something to talk about but when they are talking to a women they can get tongue tied.
10.Give yourself a break-dating can be difficult so just look at it as adventure, the chance to meet someone new not necessarily your soul mate. Most of all have fun!
Hopefully, this will give you some food for thought about how you want to pursue Dating in this New Year. Let me know if you come up with other Dating Resolutions to share.
Check out posting for Top 10 Resolutions for Men by Andrea Syrtash, author and host of “On Dating”.