Men’s Dating Resolutions for the New Year

Did you make resolutions for the New Year? Most of us make resolutions to change our lives for the better like lose weight, stop smoking, get more exercise, be kinder, or be a better parent. Sometimes they are so big that we soon give them up. January is over how are you doing on your resolutions? How motivated are you in what you want to accomplish? Have you ever thought about Dating Resolutions?
Recently, “It’s Just Lunch” had an article on their blog www.itsjustlunchblog.com about Dating Resolutions for women and men. This is a “premier Dating Service for busy professionals” that arranges meetings usually over lunch between single professionals. This article for men was by Andrea Syrtash, dating expert, life coach, author and host of “On Dating” produced by NBC Digital Studios. Her third book “He’s Just Not Your Type (and that’s a good thing) “ will be published by Rodale in April 2010.
Andrea’s top 10 Dating Resolutions for men: ( I have added to it)
1.Date the person not the potential-you are more likely to find success in love if you are realistic about how she is right now. She can develop new interests but if she really is not interested in something you are or to the same degree (like sports or motorcycles) it is probably not going to change no matter how good you make her feel. To be fair some women have been known to exaggerate their interest to appear more desirable. Shame on us…you wouldn’t see a man getting all excited about sewing or shopping just to score points with us.
2.Listen to your date’s words, but put credence in her actions –if she tells you how important you are to her but can’t find time for you, take the hint she may not be ready to commit.
3.Take Risks-step outside your comfort zone and try something new. If you keep going to the same places or doing the same things ( you tend to get the same results) but not finding the kind of women you want then you need to look elsewhere.
4.Be Open-you cannot find true intimacy without vulnerability. Protecting yourself from being hurt does not allow you to making a real connection. This is very common after a big break up just remember women have gone through similar experiences.
5.Be Resilient-not every date is going to be successful. The dating is a way to refine the criteria for the person you will fall in love with. There is no need to expect every date to be a home run unless you are really shallow and only looking to score sliding into home base horizontally.
6.Be Present –sometimes we can be so concerned about whether someone is a good match we ignore how we really feel about them. (I think women do this more than men.)
7.Be Positive –no one likes negativity, we all come into dating with past experiences. The trick is not to bring them into new relationships (one of the deal breakers when I first talk to someone is how negative they are- if all they do is grouch about life I don’t even want to go out with them).
8.Get Over an EX Who is Haunting You –do you find yourself comparing women you meet to the woman who broke your heart? Get it out of your system by writing about it, talk to a counselor or test a friend’s patience to find closure. Then leave it at the door as you head out for your date, it is over and done with so don’t bring it to a potentially rockin’ relationship.
9.Sweat the Small Stuff –Never underestimate the little things you do for your lady. It is the small everyday things that mean so much; listening, being thoughtful, a card for no reason, picking up your stuff, helping with dinner, asking if she needs help will mean as much if not more than a dozen roses that only last a little while.
10.Have Fun -make a resolution to have fun in your dating pursuits! Dating is a great opportunity to meet new people, step out of your comfort zone and try new things. Dating can be an adventure so ENJOY!

Hopefully, this will give you some food for thought about how you want to pursue Dating in this New Year. Let me know if you come up with other Dating Resolutions to share.

Check out posting for Top 10 Resolutions for Women by Evan Marc Katz, Author of “Why You’re Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not To Get Made”